Methods to enhance love after marriage and compensate for sexual needs during long-term separation
> 122. **How to enhance love after marriage**
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Some people view marriage as the grave of love, but this is incorrect. During courtship...
Love is essential during childhood, and it's even more crucial to strengthen and develop that love after marriage.
Love is, of course, a shared responsibility between husband and wife, but the husband should shoulder more of the burden.
> Responsibility. So, how can we leverage our husbands' strengths to keep our love evergreen?
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First, you must abandon male chauvinism. Once a person gets married and starts a family, then...
Therefore, the property belongs to both husband and wife; there is no question of who owns more or less property, nor is there any question of who owns more or less property.
> It's a question of who commands whom. Generally, the husband handles external affairs, and the wife handles internal affairs.
> It's the natural division of labor within the family, or rather, a physiological division of labor. But in reality, each
The division of labor within families has changed; wives often work and are busy with housework, while husbands...
> Parents should also proactively take on more household chores. Even in a small family, there are many chores to do, and they're never-ending.
That's it, it's the same every day. If you push all the housework onto your wife, over time, it will lead to...
> Hear your wife's complaints. On certain matters, when your wife raises objections, don't be harsh.
> Unreasonable and forceful refusal. In a family, if the husband acts like a bossy, arrogant...
For men in positions of power, wives are treated like servants; love is impossible to develop, and even marriage is unlikely to succeed.
The love you had before will soon vanish.
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Secondly, love should be exclusive. Once a man and woman who love each other become husband and wife, they should remain faithful.
We must be responsible to our partners, our children, and society. Being fickle and easily bored is detrimental.
Waterism, and similar practices, should be condemned and subject to legal constraints. In family life...
Conflicts are inevitable in marriage. Husbands should be accommodating to their wives and avoid getting bogged down in trivial matters.
Some men hurt their wives over trivial matters, even to the point of filing for divorce. Husbands and wives should respect and be considerate of each other.
Trust means that even in times of conflict, there is no mutual suspicion; in times of difficulty, there is mutual comfort.
Love is elevated through mutual understanding and trust.
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Third, care for and support your wife's thirst for knowledge and ambition. Love is not...
Life encompasses everything. Besides love, it includes work, study, intellectual development, and politics.
> A wife's desire for advancement. The husband should fully support and assist her.
The wife loves learning, so the husband actively creates favorable conditions for her studies.
When things don't go well, the husband offers comfort and solace. Let your wife find joy in you.
Warmth. Undoubtedly, love will be strengthened and developed.
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Sexual intercourse is an important way for couples to communicate their emotions. During sexual intercourse, the husband...
Husbands should respect and be considerate of their wives, cultivate their sexual interest, and pay attention to receiving their wives' sexual desires.
> Messages of sexual desire expressed or implied by the child. It's important to understand that whether it's the husband or wife,
In sexual activity, there is both an obligation to cooperate and a right to derive satisfaction.
A harmonious and fulfilling sex life can strengthen the bond between husband and wife and enhance their love.
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> **123.** **How can couples who are separated for a long time compensate for their sexual needs?**
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The couple lived apart, separated by vast distances, rarely reunited, living a life akin to the legendary tale of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl.
Living a life like that of a "woman" is indeed a regrettable thing. How can we face this reality in life?
The question is, how can repressed sexual needs be met?
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First, we should learn to use reason to control and redirect our impulses. As human beings...
The most beautiful enjoyment-love-should have rich connotations; it not only includes...
Love, as expressed in writing, encompasses the desire to be together day and night, to be intimate, and also includes the concept of pairing.
> Help, encouragement, and support in one's career include understanding and respect for one's pursuits.
> A deep longing and affection. "If love between two people is meant to last, why should they be together every day and night?" To divert attention from this...
To manage one's sexual desires, one should fill their life with activities, such as participating in more extracurricular activities.
> Practice, or use spare time to participate in some entertainment and social activities to enrich oneself.
When leisure time becomes busy, fulfilling, and interesting, and one has something to rely on spiritually, then one can partially achieve [something].
> Shift your focus away from sexual desire. If you experience sexual arousal, try to redirect your thoughts.
> Change your focus to something else, or go for a walk, feel the night breeze, and enjoy the night view, or
Washing your face with cold water can help disperse and transfer the need for other things.
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Secondly, the act of sending love messages via wild geese fulfills sexual needs. Amidst towering mountains and vast, desolate plains, only...
If there were wild geese to carry messages, there would be no need to worry about "even if I have a thousand kinds of feelings, who would I share them with?"
Even though husband and wife live far apart, they can still pour out their hearts to each other through frequent correspondence.
Expressing your feelings freely provides a way to vent and offers emotional comfort to the other person.
And psychological warmth. This way of expressing love is more poetic.
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Being separated by distance may prevent physical intimacy, yet it weaves a tapestry of love and companionship.
A web of mutual longing and yearning. May all couples in the world be loving and devoted to each other, lasting forever.
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> 124. **How a Husband Can Be a Good Sex Mentor for His Wife**
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Throughout human history, although many fallacies and prejudices have existed regarding sexual activity,
The so-called "performing the rites of Zhou Gong" is still perfectly legitimate, and sexual intercourse between husband and wife is also...
It is only natural. Indeed, marital sex life plays a very important role in the marital relationship.
The importance of sex in marriage is paramount; without it, a marriage is unimaginable. However, in the husband's...
In marital sex life, wives are often in a passive position, especially newlywed wives.
Fear and sexual shyness are often clearly manifested, which requires the husband to address issues related to sex.
> They are good at inspiring and guiding, and take on the role of "sex mentor".
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How can a husband be a good sex mentor to his wife? First, the husband needs to learn more.
Basic knowledge of sexual physiology and psychology. This is especially relevant when the educational levels of the couple differ significantly.
When the distance is far, it's even more important to patiently guide and enthusiastically teach. During sexual intercourse, the husband...
You need to guide your wife to concentrate fully and avoid distractions, while also being considerate of her.
He can be a bit chauvinistic. He shouldn't force himself on his wife when she's unwell or tired.
> To avoid increasing the wife's physical and mental burden and causing her to develop a sexual aversion.
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Don't rush into responding to your wife's sexual experiences, pleasure, and sensations.
To achieve success, one must be patient and wait, and never scold or reprimand one's wife, lest it hurt her feelings.
It's important to know that men's peak sexual desire is around 18-25 years old, while women's sexual desire...
The peak period is around 30 to 40 years old, and the coordination and cooperation between the two parties requires a practical process.
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Some wives are excellent at housework and childcare, but have low levels of understanding about sex.
It's pitiful that some people believe marriage is solely for having children and continuing the family line. And some others...
They also mistakenly believe that wives are merely "sexual tools" for their husbands, unaware that there is also a dual nature to their wives.
This is an issue that requires both partners to work together to improve the quality of their sex life. Therefore, husbands should be good at helping each other.
> Wives should have a correct understanding of the meaning of sex life, which will deepen their understanding of the essence of marriage.
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In daily life, husbands should proactively communicate with their wives about their sexual experiences. They should also pay attention to their wives' subtle...
All progress should be encouraged. In practice, both partners should find the most ideal position for each other.
Methods, timing, frequency, and psychological environment can help couples gradually achieve harmony in their sex life.
In this state, the flower of marriage can bloom forever.
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> 125. Do you understand your wife's sexual signals?
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The wife emerged from the bathroom, half-naked, and whispered to her husband, "This morning..."
"Go to sleep." The husband, assuming his wife was tired, casually replied, "You rest first, I..."
"There are still some things to take care of." After finishing his chores, the husband came to the bedroom to prepare for bed.
When he realized his wife was still awake, he went over to kiss her, but she angrily pushed him away.
She opened the covers and went to sleep. Her husband was bewildered. He had no idea his wife had given birth.
He was angry, and he didn't understand that his wife telling him to go to bed early wasn't about sleep.
It wasn't a question, but rather a sexual signal sent to him.
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People typically believe that the husband is the active partner in sex, while the wife is passive.
In fact, this understanding is one-sided. Sexual desire is a basic human instinct and is a sign of health.
Sexual desire is a normal physiological phenomenon of the body; both men and women experience certain sexual desires.
However, due to the long-standing influence of feudal ideology, women are often ashamed to speak about their sexual desires. Therefore,
Once sexual desire arises, they often prefer to use a subtle and introverted approach.
Send signals to your husband, such as suggestive language and symbolic gestures and expressions.
The wife emerging from the bathroom was hoping for her husband's tenderness. Furthermore, the wife...
> Every glance from her husband, whether changing her underwear in front of him or putting on a beautiful nightgown.
Lying in bed, etc., can all be sexual signals from a wife. A careless husband...
> They are not good at reading facial expressions, fail to pay attention to these sexual signals, and may even rudely reject them.
This can hurt the other person's self-esteem and affect the relationship between husband and wife. Over time, it can even cause the wife...
> Decreased libido can trigger various illnesses such as insomnia, headaches, and mood swings.
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A harmonious and coordinated sexual relationship between husband and wife is a reliable guarantee for increasing marital cohesion.
Therefore, as a husband, you must learn to be aware of your wife's sexual signals at any time, from her lover's...
Love and care for your wife from a different perspective. Of course, as a wife in the new era, you shouldn't be overly concerned with her appearance.
She sends out all sorts of signals in ever-changing ways; what can't she say to her husband?
> Shouldn't you express your love to avoid misunderstandings and damage to your relationship?