How should we view the sex life of long-married couples and pre-pregnancy preparations?
> 145. **How to view the sex life of long-married couples**
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Some people believe that the pleasures of sex are only for young people, and that older people cannot enjoy them.
To publicly admit or express sexual desire again is either indecent or outrageous.
> It seems that older men are no longer allowed to share sexual pleasures. But that's not the case in the United States.
A survey indicates that men and women in their 60s still have sex, and this trend continues into their 70s.
Even at their age, some elderly couples still have sex. The survey data also indicates that some loving elderly couples...
The elderly woman's sex life continued until she was 80 years old. This demonstrates the sexual function of older adults.
They are quite active. Older adults should enjoy a variety of spiritual activities throughout their lives.
The pleasures of life, including sex, are important, but self-imposed limitations are undesirable.
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Of course, many elderly people do experience unsatisfactory sexual function, mainly due to psychological factors.
> The influence of psychological factors. Elderly men may experience penile erection failure within 24 hours after ejaculation.
A woman's vaginal lubrication develops more slowly, vaginal wall elasticity decreases, and genital sensitivity is lower.
There's no need to feel burdened by these thoughts; it doesn't mean you've lost your sexual function.
Secondly, some elderly people frequently take certain medications or have a habit of drinking alcohol.
It can affect libido and even cause sexual inhibition. Therefore, older adults need to adjust their lifestyles appropriately.
Establish your own lifestyle and bring your sex life back on track.
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The frequency of sexual activity for older adults should be determined based on their age and physical condition.
> It is generally recommended that men around 60 years old have their period once every 10 days; those over 70 years old...
For elderly men around 70 years old, once every 15-20 days; for those over 70 years old, once every 1-2 months.
> First sexual encounter. Furthermore, the sexual life of the elderly is not limited to intercourse, but...
More often, it involves emotional exchange, such as hugging, kissing, touching genitals, and physical intimacy.
Being together and expressing one's feelings to the other can lead to sexual satisfaction.
> Even elderly people with acute or chronic illnesses should not be absolutely prohibited from sexual activity, but...
> It is important to adopt appropriate body positions and methods.
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"Though the setting sun is late, its afterglow still fills the sky." This famous saying is absolutely applicable here.
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> 146. **What preparations should couples make before pregnancy?**
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Extensive practice has shown that good parental health alone is insufficient to guarantee eugenics.
Many external factors are also needed to facilitate pregnancy. Therefore, young couples preparing for pregnancy...
It is essential to make adequate preparations before getting pregnant.
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(1) If either spouse is exposed to harmful substances for an extended period due to their occupation, such as...
Lead, cadmium, and radiation, etc., require a medical examination first, or contact with a doctor regarding these substances.
You should wait at least six months after eliminating harmful substances before trying to conceive. Otherwise, these harmful substances can damage your health.
It can harm sperm or eggs, leading to abnormal fetal development after conception.
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(2) Smoking and alcohol have a direct harmful effect on sperm and eggs. People addicted to smoking and drinking...
The sperm or eggs produced are mostly deformed, and the babies born after conception are also mostly deformed.
> Mentally retarded children. Therefore, couples planning to conceive should quit smoking and drinking six months in advance, and
Avoid occasions where people smoke.
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(3) Increasing nutrition and maintaining a good mental state are also essential.
A proper nutritional balance can increase the husband's sperm motility and quantity; it can also...
The wife's uterine lining stores more and more nutrients to supply early embryonic development.
Mental stress or emotional fluctuations can affect the regulatory function of the endocrine system, often leading to...
This can lead to decreased fetal vitality and an increased incidence of birth defects. Those wishing to conceive must be aware of these issues.
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(4) Both men and women preparing for pregnancy must maintain appropriate physical exercise.
Improve your physical fitness. Secondly, avoid wearing tight pants like jeans, otherwise...
It affects sperm production in men and the development of reproductive organs in women, which is detrimental to eugenics. Also...
It should be noted that both men and women should stop all activities that could affect the fetus before conception.
> Medication: If you must take medication, consult your doctor beforehand. If you have a serious illness, or
> Any illness that may harm the fetus must be cured before pregnancy can be attempted.
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> 147. How should couples with different personalities get along?
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People are influenced by a variety of factors, including family, social environment, and their own circumstances.
This leads to different personalities. This is also true for couples; a gentle wife often encounters...
> A strong-willed and short-tempered husband; a calm and taciturn husband often encounters a eloquent wife.
Indeed, incompatibility between husband and wife can bring many conflicts to family life. So,
How should couples like this get along?
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(1) Heterogeneous complementarity: In a sense, "heterogeneous" is more complementary than "homogeneous".
It has its advantages, but the key lies in "complementarity." Some couples with very different personalities always envy...
I admire couples with similar temperaments, assuming their lives must be filled with sunshine, but that's not the case.
However, while a sudden onset of infantile convulsions meeting a slow-acting doctor is certainly frustrating, a couple with short tempers arguing...
One fire is fueled by the wind, and the other by the wind; that's enough to make people...
> It's acceptable. Therefore, even with different personalities, couples can achieve harmony as long as they pay attention to complementing each other.
> To achieve psychological and physiological harmony and satisfaction. As one introverted wife said:
"I don't really approve of my husband's temper, and I would never try to imitate it. But I do appreciate..."
His open and honest nature. The reason I fell in love with him was because he introduced me to Kai...
> Lang. Her husband felt the same way: "Her self-control is..."
> My kind of subtle, gradual education.
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(2) Respect the other person: Personality has relative stability; one should not put oneself in another's shoes.
Imposing your personality on the other person will not only fail to achieve its purpose, but will also provoke resistance.
> Rejection psychology. Even if the other person does have personality flaws, it should be based on mutual respect.
> Use a gradual, guiding approach, giving the other person time to adjust. In life, the vast majority of people's sexual...
Every personality has its strengths and weaknesses; only through mutual respect and equal treatment can we achieve harmony.
This lays a good psychological foundation for harmony between the two parties.
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(3) Overcoming individuality: If, on the basis of mutual respect for each other's personalities, we can accumulate...
Overcoming one's own personality flaws will naturally lead to harmonious relationships. -Sylmar, American Marriage and Family Association
Miller revealed a secret to successful marriages:
In marriage, both husband and wife learn to achieve this balance in their shared life.
> - Maintain your core characteristics and change any personality traits that your partner finds unacceptable.
This is somewhat extreme. It tells people that mutual adjustment of personality is key to marital harmony.
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(4) Mutual tolerance and understanding: Couples with different personalities are more likely to experience friction in their daily lives.
Oh dear. At this point, both of you should learn to be tolerant and understanding. If you have a good understanding of your spouse's personality...
If you feel resistant, try to calm down first, think more about the other person's strengths, and take a look at their situation.
Do you also have shortcomings? After the atmosphere has eased, sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk, and exchange ideas.
> Each person should express their thoughts and feelings in order to gain the other's understanding. Only in this way can...
The couple enjoys a harmonious and loving relationship.