Changes in the wife in married life and eliminating the new wife's fear of sex
> 116. **What changes occur in the wife during married life?**
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Sexual climax is primarily achieved through contact and friction between male and female genitalia.
> Of course. For men, ejaculation is the central expression of orgasm, while for women...
What standards should be used to measure it?
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Modern sexological research has proven that human sexual response has four stages, including spontaneous...
The sexual activity consists of four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. During intercourse, the male...
Exercise has an effect on the female mons pubis and "sexual turkey plateau" (the area that appears during female sexual arousal).
> The vaginal wall is in a state of congestion, meaning the outer two-thirds of the vaginal wall is thickened and protrudes more than usual due to congestion.
(Like a high ground protruding from a plain) exerts force, and the penis impacts the labia minora on both sides.
The downward and inward force continuously rubs against the clitoris, and the clitoris is passively lowered, causing...
The nerve endings of the clitoris are fully sensitized, resulting in intense pleasure (so-called clitoral erogenous zones).
> The desire for orgasm. Due to repeated friction between the penis and vagina, to a certain extent, the vaginal vestibule...
> Significantly increased vaginal discharge, and rhythmic contractions of the vaginal muscles (referred to as vaginal contractions).
When a woman is about to climax, her pelvic muscles may suddenly twitch, and even her anal sphincter may involuntarily tighten.
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Sexual orgasm is a systemic response, with noticeable changes in respiration, heart rate, and blood pressure.
Significant changes occur. Breathing becomes rapid, exceeding 40 beats per minute, and the heart rate increases.
The heart rate can reach 180 beats per minute, and systolic and diastolic blood pressure can increase by 2.6 to 5.3 kPa, respectively.
Generally, it is believed that a woman reaching this level during sexual intercourse constitutes orgasm. Therefore,
How can a man detect when his wife has reached orgasm?
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First, when a woman is tightly embraced by a man, she naturally becomes aroused.
He held his breath, appearing to breathe rapidly and panting. The penis could feel the vagina.
The muscles contract rhythmically, then suddenly tighten, then suddenly relax.
The woman had just experienced an orgasm.
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Secondly, when a woman feels satisfied, sweating profusely is also a sign of orgasm.
> One characteristic. At this point, the man will know simply by hugging the woman's body. For example
If the sweat feels cool, that's a sign of sweating. If you're more excited, you'll often sweat more.
He hugged the quilt tightly, his sweat soaking through the sheets and his clothes.
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Third, during orgasm, a woman may reach a state of ecstasy, exhibiting...
The body involuntarily tenses, eyes close, mind wanders, limbs become limp or twisted.
They were restless, even involuntarily waiting for the most beautiful moment to arrive. At this moment, at 40...
Within 45 seconds, the actual orgasm and maximum sexual satisfaction will occur.
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> 117. **How to eliminate a newlywed wife's sexual phobia**
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Newlyweds, the couple transformed their initial hesitant and hazy sexual desire into...
In reality, most brides are quite satisfied with their lives. However, some brides...
She harbors an invisible fear regarding sexual activity; even the slightest touch from her husband can trigger a reaction.
If you are so frightened that you scream or faint, you have "sexual phobia".
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So, what causes this phenomenon? According to sex psychologists...
The main reason for this is a lack of sex education. For example, some girls in the throes of new love...
They confessed that whenever they envisioned a bright future, a nameless fear always lingered within them.
> I worry that on my wedding day, intercourse might be painful, and I might bleed profusely from my genitals...
Thinking about this, they dared not think any further, and even considered not getting married at all.
This increases the psychological burden and creates initial fear. Some brides are also affected by...
Influenced by feudal ideology, people considered sleeping with men to be low-class, vulgar, and dirty.
Sex and pregnancy are seen as sources of pleasure for men and suffering for women. Before marriage, women experience anxiety and fear...
Fear filled my mind; when we were to have intercourse after marriage, anxiety, fear, and absurd thoughts would arise.
> The law will arise spontaneously and be strengthened accordingly.
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Some people suffer from chronic illnesses, but their sexual instincts remain, and their sexual desires persist.
Driven by demand, there are many times when one's mind wanders and cannot control it. This is due to a lack of necessary knowledge.
> They lack understanding of whether sexual intercourse actually affects chronic diseases, and therefore engage in intercourse...
During the process, being hesitant and indecisive, fearing for one's health, can also generate psychological fear.
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There are two ways to eliminate fear of women:
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(1) Knowledge Acquisition Method: Many women's sexual fears stem from a lack of sexual knowledge.
As some scholars have said: "Stupidity and anxiety breed fear, knowledge..."
> And protection, yet rejecting fear. Therefore, couples should read sex education materials together.
> Understand women's sexual psychology and sexual responses, as well as related physiological and psychological knowledge.
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(2) Distraction method: Shift your attention from the object of fear to something else.
Looking at other aspects is an effective way to eliminate sexual fear. For example, during the first sexual intercourse due to...
When a woman is timid and fearful, a man should show her extra care and tenderness, and add affection.
Be patient, talk to her, and gradually arouse her sexual desire. When she can no longer suppress it...
When sexual urges are suppressed, and sexual intercourse is gradually completed, the fear will naturally disappear.
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**118.** **What to do if a woman experiences sexual dysfunction after marriage?**
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For most couples, marriage is a happy and fulfilling one. However, there are also...
Some couples, however, encounter obstacles during their first sexual encounter. So, is it easier for women to...
What kinds of obstacles might occur, and how should they be handled?
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(1) Vaginismus: Vaginal spasm occurs during intercourse due to muscle spasms at the vaginal opening or around the vagina.
Strong and sustained contractions narrow the vaginal opening and vagina, preventing penile insertion.
Vaginismus is a condition where the penis cannot be withdrawn after penetration, or the vagina is constricted. Its main causes include...
The bride's psychological state during her first sexual intercourse is quite complex, involving high levels of tension and even fear.
The groom, in his eagerness to finish, acted too roughly and recklessly. Or perhaps it was the bride's hymen.
The membrane is relatively tough, and the pain during rupture is too great. Due to the body's own instinct, the vagina produces...
> Reflexive defensive contraction. When this occurs, the husband should first help his wife correct this.
Regarding sexual intercourse, the husband should be gentle, tender, and refined during intercourse, providing...
The bride uses various forms of caressing to accelerate sexual desire. If necessary, she can apply [medication] to the penis.
Apply some medical-grade petroleum jelly to facilitate penile insertion. A sedative may also be given to the wife beforehand.
> (e.g., taking 1-2 tablets of diazepam within 30 minutes before intercourse) can relieve spasms caused by tension.
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(2) Dyspareunia: refers to pain in the female vulva, vagina, or lower abdomen during intercourse.
Pain in the abdomen makes normal sexual intercourse impossible. This is mainly due to organic diseases and...
> Caused by psychological factors. Organic diseases are all due to local diseases of the female reproductive organs.
Changes, such as vulvitis, vaginitis, pelvic inflammatory disease, urethritis, vulvar and vaginal scarring.
Diseases such as scars can cause painful intercourse; psychological factors include a lack of sexual activity between the couple.
> This can be caused by a lack of knowledge, such as the man being too hasty or rough during intercourse, which can cause discomfort to the woman.
The other party may experience discomfort or pain, leading to fear and aversion, to the point that after each sexual intercourse...
> Pain in the vagina. For patients experiencing pain during intercourse, the specific cause should be identified. If it is...
Pain during intercourse caused by genital lesions should be diagnosed and treated at a hospital as soon as possible.
Avoid sexual intercourse. If the issue stems from psychological factors, both partners should be considerate of each other, and intercourse should be gentle and coordinated.
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(3) Coitus syncope: refers to a woman suddenly turning pale and losing consciousness during intercourse.
The symptom of blurred vision that resolves with a short rest is quite rare.
The main reason is excessive excitement or fear during intercourse.
> Zhang, reflexively causing dilation of peripheral small blood vessels, resulting in temporary cerebral ischemia.
In rare cases, the cause in women may be other medical conditions, such as carotid sinus syndrome or anemia.
> etc. After fainting occurs, the patient's head should be lowered and they should lie quietly for a moment, then use a finger...
Press and pinch the philtrum and ten acupoints firmly, or let the person smell ammonia water; generally, this will help.
It is recoverable. If the condition is severe, hospitalization is necessary.