Aesthetic principles of male sexual life, characteristics of sexual physiological changes in middle age and physical and mental adjustment during menopause

The aesthetic principles of sexual life are as follows: (1) The beauty of cleanliness and hygiene: In sexual life, paying attention to the cleanliness and hygiene of the whole body and sexual organs has very important aesthetic significance. The uncleanliness of either partner can become a factor that inhibits sexual desire. For example, dirty ears and smelly feet; the odor of physiological organs, especially the foreskin of the male partner, due to lack of attention to cleaning; bad breath caused by tooth decay, chronic pharyngitis, periodontitis, smoking, etc. Therefore, personal hygiene should be done before each sexual intercourse, such as brushing teeth and taking a bath. After bathing, you can also spray some perfume to enhance the fragrance, but you should not spray too much, and you should not spray it on the genitals to avoid causing inflammation of the external genitalia. (2) The beauty of clothing and demeanor: It is necessary to always pay attention to one's appearance and cleanliness, which is especially important for men. If the wife often sees her husband with messy hair and his outer clothes and underwear not being washed often, it will cause physiological aversion during sexual life, and may even lead to frigidity. Of course, the wife should also pay attention to these aspects. In short, not paying attention to the beauty of clothing and demeanor will reduce the desire of the couple for sexual life. (3) The Art of Sexual Seduction: As the saying goes, "Men love with their eyes, women love with their ears." This means that men's sexual seduction leans towards visual appeal, while women's leans towards auditory appeal. When a wife has properly groomed herself and changed into clothing that showcases her feminine beauty, it will strongly stimulate her husband's sexual desire. A thin, semi-transparent blouse, in particular, creates a hazy, alluring beauty, which is more arousing than a sudden display of her body. Men should also cultivate their literary refinement and use artistic language to express their love for their wives during sexual activity. Heartfelt and poetic language will surely stir a wife's heart, making it difficult for her to resist the allure of love.

For men over 40, some predictable physiological changes occur in their sexual organs. There's no need to be surprised or anxious. During intercourse, direct physical stimulation is required for penile erection, unlike in youth when the mere thought of sex or the image of a naked partner or a fantasy of intercourse would immediately induce an erection. The induction period for penile erection in middle-aged men is longer; both partners should patiently wait for the opportune moment. The second change is that while the penis may still erect, its girth, hardness, and sharpness are not as pronounced as in youth. However, this change is not an obstacle to completing intercourse quickly. The third change is in ejaculation and orgasm. During intercourse in youth, the testes, seminal vesicles, vas deferens, and their associated muscles and ligaments are strong and powerful, and with ample semen, ejaculation is rapid and forceful, resulting in a pronounced male orgasm (though the female orgasm may not be simultaneous). However, after age 40, this "inevitable urge to ejaculate" is often less pronounced. Some men may even maintain an erection but fail to ejaculate. The man himself may feel guilty for not reaching orgasm due to the lack of ejaculatory response, and in some cases, his wife may feel she has lost her attractiveness or suspect him of infidelity. These concerns are unnecessary. The fourth change is that the time interval between erections is longer than in youth. In one's 20s, after orgasm, the penis can become erect again after a few minutes of rest. For men over 40, this interval is not a few hours, but several days or even longer. These physiological changes show significant individual differences among middle-aged men, and some men in middle age do not experience a decline in sexual function.

There are significant individual differences in the changes in sexual function among middle-aged men. Some men experience a decline even before reaching middle age, while others maintain the state they had in their youth. However, in general, due to factors such as the decrease in androgen levels and the decline of the nervous system, sexual function will decline compared to that of youth. The specific manifestations are as follows: (1) Difficulty in achieving an erection in a short time: Middle-aged men are no longer as "easy" as young men. When subjected to effective sexual stimulation, the time required for penile erection will be longer than that of young men. This requires increasing the time spent on foreplay during sexual intercourse. (2) Reduced penile erection hardness: The hardness of an erection in middle-aged men may not be as good as that of young men, but they can still enter the vagina smoothly and complete the entire process of intercourse. (3) Reduced ejaculation force: The ejaculation force of middle-aged men is weaker than that of young men. This is due to the decline in nerve reflexes and muscle contraction force, which does not affect intercourse and therefore does not need to be a major concern. (4) Increased duration of intercourse: Compared with the "quick and easy" sexual arousal of youth, the duration of intercourse in middle-aged men is longer. This is actually an advantage of middle-aged men's sex life, as it is easier to synchronize with the late-coming female orgasm, allowing both parties to achieve maximum sexual satisfaction at the same time. (5) The speed of penile flaccidity is faster: After orgasm, the penis flaccidizes relatively quickly, which does not affect sexual life. (6) The interval between two erections is prolonged: This is actually a self-protective physiological mechanism, an adaptation to the gradual decline of physical strength. It can prevent middle-aged men from excessive fatigue caused by multiple arousals in a short period of time.

Recent studies have shown that men do experience a kind of menopause, but it's not as pronounced as in women. After age 50, men's testicular function undergoes a decline, unlike the complete cessation of ovarian function in women. Therefore, the physical and psychological changes are not as drastic as during female menopause. Men entering this stage may experience weakened muscle strength, feelings of depression, irritability, and mood swings, and may also experience decreased libido and sexual dysfunction. This gradual change in sexual responsiveness can exacerbate negative emotions, creating a vicious cycle. The decreased libido and sexual dysfunction experienced by men in menopause are mostly functional, not a permanent loss of function. With appropriate changes in medication, smoking, and dietary habits, coupled with suitable physical exercise and maintaining an optimistic and cheerful mental state, sexual function can be improved. Sexologists believe that as people age, intimacy and trust in their relationships with their partners become crucial. All psychologists agree that sexual intercourse after age 40 is one of the most important forms of physical and emotional communication between people. A sex psychologist points out that men going through menopause are at high risk of developing erectile dysfunction if they lack the understanding and support of a close, understanding partner. Unfortunately, many men experiencing menopausal symptoms are reluctant to discuss their sexual changes with their partners. They are unwilling to acknowledge their declining sexual ability, believing it damages their self-esteem because men are inherently masculine. In fact, gaining a wife's understanding and employing appropriate sexual techniques can help men navigate the sexual challenges of menopause more smoothly.