The Management of Male Refractory Period and the Dangers of Holding Back Ejaculation
**Management of the Male Refractory Period**
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There's a saying in Scandinavia: the first half of sex is about sex, the second half is about love.
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It refers to the time after sexual intercourse, during which couples can not only fully express and share their deep love, but also communicate and coordinate many other conflicts and troubles in daily life. Many important family plans are often made at this time. The phrase "whispering in someone's ear" also illustrates that communication at this time is most effective.
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However, most couples encounter the obstacle of the male's "refractory period" at this time. The "refractory period" refers to the brief period after ejaculation during which a man no longer responds to external sexual stimulation as he would have previously. During this time, the husband often appears indifferent, numb, absent-minded, or even falls asleep immediately. The older the man, the longer the refractory period. However, the wife doesn't have this refractory period; she needs ten minutes or even longer to gradually calm down. During this time, she craves her husband's affection and tenderness even more. If the husband doesn't provide this, the wife feels he is too selfish, or at least doesn't know how to take care of himself. Many marital conflicts arise at this point.
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Wives should certainly be understanding; the refractory period is a natural physiological phenomenon for men, and it doesn't mean their husbands don't love them, nor is it a problem with their personal character. However, husbands can certainly mitigate the indifference that occurs during the refractory period and shouldn't simply attribute it to physiological factors. The fatigue men experience after ejaculation isn't due to muscle strain, but rather because the cerebral cortex experiences peak excitement during orgasm, requiring mental rest afterward, hence the drowsiness. Everyone knows that after highly intense mental activity, the best way to rest is to take a walk or do some physical activity, and the same applies after the refractory period. The husband can get up to use the restroom, get a glass of water, tidy the bed, or switch sleeping positions-any light physical activity can effectively alleviate the drowsiness during the refractory period. Wives should also try to assist him or encourage him to get up and move around. Once the refractory period is alleviated, the couple will have more time and energy to connect emotionally.
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**Suppressing ejaculation seriously harms men's health.**
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Holding back ejaculation refers to abruptly stopping sexual intercourse just before ejaculation, with the aim of preventing semen from being released. Modern medical research suggests that holding back ejaculation is extremely harmful to the physical and mental health of both men and women, specifically in the following ways:
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**1. Inducing retrograde ejaculation**
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Normally, during ejaculation, the bladder neck sphincter is contracted and closed, while the membranous urethral sphincter relaxes and dilates. Semen can only flow downwards and cannot ascend into the bladder, nor can urine be expelled with ejaculation. However, if ejaculation is suppressed during intercourse, the semen is forced to change course, flowing backwards towards the bladder opening and entering the bladder, resulting in retrograde ejaculation. Over time, this can become a conditioned reflex leading to infertility.
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2. Inducing ejaculatory dysfunction
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The entire process of ejaculation is controlled by the central nervous system. Along with ejaculation, men experience sexual pleasure and reach orgasm. Frequently suppressing ejaculation artificially interferes with or controls the physiological processes of sexual response, causing dysfunction of the cerebral cortex and inhibiting ejaculation. Over time, this can lead to anejaculation or delayed ejaculation.
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3. Causes seminal vesicle inflammation.
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The seminal vesicles are the organs in which men produce sperm and synthesize semen. During normal sexual intercourse, the seminal vesicles, prostate, and other sexual organs are in a state of congestion. If intercourse is interrupted and ejaculation is withheld, the speed at which blood flow to the sexual organs recovers will be significantly slowed down. The seminal vesicles will become congested and swollen for a prolonged period, which can lead to the dilation and rupture of capillaries on the inner wall of the seminal vesicles, resulting in hematospermia and causing seminal vesiculitis that is difficult to cure.
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4. Prone to prostatitis
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If ejaculation is suppressed, the prostate will remain in a state of congestion for an extended period. This prolonged and repeated congestion can easily lead to the expansion and relaxation of the acini, as well as edema of the tissues between the glands, resulting in non-bacterial prostatitis.
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5. Causes frequent nocturnal emissions.
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If one tries to hold back ejaculation during sexual intercourse, the semen will have nowhere to go. Coupled with unmet sexual desire, the semen will be released through nocturnal emission. Over time, this can become a habit, leading to frequent nocturnal emissions and negatively impacting physical and mental health.
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6. Erectile dysfunction follows.
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Suddenly stopping intercourse during sexual activity and suppressing ejaculation only halts the physical act of intercourse; the sexual center in the cerebral cortex and the sexual organs remain in a state of excitement and congestion. Psychologically, sexual desire is not satisfied. This increases the burden on the nervous system and sexual organs, and the artificial suppression can lead to erectile dysfunction.
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7. Causes neurasthenia
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Because the cerebral cortex is in a state of tension and anxiety due to suppressing ejaculation, a person's spirit is repressed, which creates a psychological burden. Over time, this can lead to neurasthenia, resulting in symptoms such as insomnia, forgetfulness, headaches, and dizziness.