The dangers of instrumentalizing sex, the reasons for male indulgence, and concern for women's past.

[The Harm of Instrumentalizing Sexual Life] Many husbands unconsciously believe that frequent, high-intensity, and long-lasting sexual activity is a symbol of a man's vigorous sexual ability, a "basis" for being superior to women or even dominating his wife, and a tool for maintaining a marital relationship where the husband is superior to the wife.

As a result, many husbands are extremely sensitive to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, developing a morbid fear, and doubting themselves and misdiagnosing themselves whenever things don't go their way.

In fact, if couples engage in frequent and mechanical sexual activity in order to show "superiority," their sexual experience will become increasingly impoverished, the psychological distance between them will widen, and erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation will become more common.

Many husbands maintain a high frequency of sexual activity out of a sense of responsibility, fearing that a low frequency might affect their relationship or even their marriage.

Little did they know that what they would gain was only a furnace without fire and a tree without flowers.

Many couples want to use sex to comfort, motivate, or alleviate their own or their partner's emotions, and it can be effective occasionally. However, it is essential to prioritize psychological communication and connection beforehand. Otherwise, negative emotions may seep into sexual feelings, leaving indelible negative psychological imprints that can lead to unconscious sexual apathy later on. Some people may even develop distorted ways of experiencing sex or even peculiar psychological traits.

Newlywed husbands are prone to the misconception that sex is merely a tool for love, often using sex alone to express their affection.

Sex and love should be combined, but not always; sometimes they should be relatively separate.

Sex has its own foundation and function. If sex is forcibly used as a tool for love, it will inevitably exaggerate or devalue sex, reduce the level of sexual experience, and the love itself will be damaged.

Sexual activity should be the most relaxing and natural behavior, and its goal is to achieve the process itself, especially to deepen the experience of the subject.

Adding any other objective to it will inevitably lead to the loss and weakening of the goal of sex itself, and cause indifference to sexual feelings.

As a result, instrumentalized sex life can punish the individual, making it impossible to achieve both sexual goals and additional goals.

[Reasons for Men's Indulgence] Men are born with an impulse to indulge, especially those who feel repressed. Once given the opportunity to indulge, they will indulge excessively.

Many men have lost the ability to love due to the fast pace and pressure, but overnutrition makes them more sexually active.

Many men do have problematic views, and having sex without a condom is one of those problems.

Even more frightening is that some men, knowing they have sexually transmitted diseases, still deliberately avoid using condoms when having sex with women.

In fact, people in the transition period are very restless, and indulgence at this time is just a way of venting and struggling.

In essence, people who indulge in self-destructive behavior often experience emotional loneliness and anxiety, as well as confusion and bewilderment about their careers.

Indulgence is indeed a shadow of growth, but a true man should not live in such a shadow for a long time.

A man's value lies in striving for improvement. Many people who were once the most indulgent may become the least indulgent once they stop indulging.

Those who have never indulged and those who are indulging are more troublesome; they may suddenly fall into depravity or die in an instant.

[Men's concern about women's past] Before you dated me, didn't you love a man? What kind of person was he? How long ago was that? How "good" were you two? Men's relentless questioning is truly admirable.

Why do men go to such lengths to extract information from women?

Besides jealousy, men's tendency to ask women for "confessions" stems from an excessively strong possessiveness.

He was still not satisfied with his current possession of "her" and felt that he should also have exclusive possession of her from the past.

If this possessiveness is high, he will find it unacceptable even if a woman is close to her family or friends, and he will want to possess her every minute of every day.

Deep down, the man harbored a peculiar thought: he always wanted to test whether he had the right to question her.

Men cannot forgive women's promiscuity and indiscretion.

Even men who consider themselves progressive and trendy still "care" about this deep down.

So much so that when a man reaches the stage of looking for a future partner, he starts asking women all sorts of questions.

At times like these, some men will just ask a few vague questions.

However, some men will relentlessly press for answers. It depends on the man's personality.

Men always speak so grandly on the surface, saying things like "I won't hold those things against you," which forces you to reveal even the smallest things.

However, he would bring up these things when he was drunk.

"This is the first time in my life I've truly loved a man. How could I be so infatuated? Even I'm surprised..." I believe no other sentence could make a man feel more overjoyed than this one.

Upon hearing such a statement from a woman, a man would become overjoyed and, like a baby, completely at her mercy.

Because proving what you want to believe is a remarkable thing.

[Seeing Through Women's "True Lies"] Does penis size matter? Most women would say no, but if asked for more details, they would unanimously add some opinions after saying "no": Although size is not important, to be honest, if a man's penis is larger, it will indeed be more exciting.

After understanding women's psychology, there's no need to worry too much if your penis is "small".

Next time you have sex, you can have her kneel on the bed and enter from behind while pressing your hands on her shoulders and applying pressure. This will make your partner feel tighter and make her feel that your penis is "bigger".

If your partner says she never "acts" in bed, then she is actually "acting" for you.

When a woman orgasms, her nipples become noticeably enlarged, and after her orgasm, her pupils will dilate slightly for 3-4 minutes.

At the same time, you can ask your wife in detail about her orgasm during sex while you are cuddling after making love, so that you can use it as a guide for your next "battle plan".

Do you wish sex could last longer? For women, there is no fixed rule for the length of sex; it absolutely depends on individual preferences and mood at the time.

The best way to reach a consensus between two people is to have an open and honest conversation.

However, please do not choose to ask these questions during sex, because you should anticipate your partner's desired duration beforehand and try to understand the information her body is giving you.

Many people believe that women's libido is far lower than men's, so in many cases, women have sex with their male partners simply to accommodate them. However, the actual situation revealed by the survey is not like this.

If your wife sleeps with you, she can actually spend most of the time having sex with you.

Women's libido differs slightly from men's; it takes them longer to arouse. So men might as well be patient and start by stroking her back, gently biting her ear, and so on, to slowly flirt with her.

Do things to reassure her of your importance, such as saying things like, "For some reason, I've wanted to make love to you all day."