Mutual coordination, slow stimulation techniques, techniques to promote orgasm, and caressing during resolution.
(4) Mutual cooperation
A harmonious sex life can only be achieved through the mutual cooperation of both partners. A husband shouldn't only be tender and affectionate when he wants sex; he should consistently show his wife care and consideration, and engage in regular emotional communication. Sexual intercourse is a shared experience, and only with mutual affection can close cooperation be achieved. In particular, the man must avoid being impatient and rough, and never prioritize his own feelings while ignoring or disregarding his wife's wishes.
Women should not feel obligated to satisfy their husbands' sexual desires and force themselves to do so. Sexual intercourse requires the conscious desire of both partners. Only in an atmosphere of mutual love, by indicating or making sexual requests, can the partner experience more pleasure without feeling surprised. Many women require male prompting before sexual activity. If one partner is in a bad mood or forces intercourse against their will, not only will the other partner not experience the most pleasurable sexual experience, but over time, it can also lead to aversion and decreased libido.
To some extent, men need the help and cooperation of women to maintain relatively good sexual function; in other words, women's sexual function is of greater importance, so women should pay more attention to their own sexual function. Women should have the responsibility to understand and better cooperate with their partners. Due to hormonal changes or localized changes such as decreased vaginal secretions, some women may experience pain during intercourse and should seek medical treatment and take effective measures. Men may also experience transient sexual dysfunction due to fatigue or psychological stress. In such cases, some women may immediately suspect infidelity or rashly accuse their partner of "you're no longer capable" or "you can't satisfy me anymore," which can have serious consequences leading to male sexual dysfunction. Therefore, mutual understanding is essential between partners.
(5) Maintaining sexual desire in both partners during intercourse
Distractions during intercourse can delay orgasm, while focused attention can bring it to an earlier and faster stage. Therefore, after intercourse begins, the wife should concentrate on experiencing sexual pleasure, and the couple should avoid discussing anything unrelated to sex. Lack of concentration affects nerve excitability, especially talking about unpleasant topics, which often leads to a decrease in sexual arousal rather than an increase. The wife should especially avoid expressing dissatisfaction with her husband, or even scolding or complaining about him, as this often damages his sexual arousal and may even cause or worsen penile flaccidity, exacerbating disharmony in their sex life. Conversely, a wife's tenderness and gentleness will stimulate her husband's libido; her excitement and eagerness for pleasure will infect him, arousing his desire and promoting a harmonious and fulfilling sex life.
During sexual intercourse, one should be emotionally stable and relaxed, enjoying the experience without mental burden, and in a comfortable and undisturbed environment. This is especially important for first-time sexual intercourse. From this perspective, premarital sex is highly detrimental to establishing harmony and should be avoided; of course, this is more importantly a matter of sexual morality.
(6) Skillful use of the slow-motion method
On the one hand, the man should restrain himself and delay the onset of orgasm; on the other hand, he should stimulate the woman's erogenous zones from multiple angles to arouse her emotions and promote her orgasm.
The glans penis, especially the frenulum and crown, is the most sensitive area for men. Stimulation of this area elicits the strongest sexual pleasure and easily leads to orgasm. Therefore, husbands should not solely pursue their own sexual pleasure but should exercise restraint and strive to minimize stimulation of sensitive areas such as the glans and frenulum. A specific method is to insert the tip of the penis deep into the vagina, without immediately thrusting, but instead using swaying or rocking motions. This reduces friction and stimulation of the penis while providing comprehensive stimulation of the wife's vulva through the base of the penis and mons pubis, thus promoting her orgasm. Simultaneously, the husband should frequently and comprehensively stimulate his wife's erogenous zones, such as kissing the lips, caressing the breasts, and the inner thighs, further stimulating her orgasm. When the erogenous zones and genitals experience sexual pleasure and lead to orgasm, the feeling of comfort quickly spreads throughout the woman's body. The wife's full-body manifestations and the rhythmic involuntary contractions of her vagina during orgasm will increase the husband's pleasure. At this time, if the husband increases the amplitude of his thrusting, it will promote his wife's orgasm. And the final thrust at this time will often trigger a second orgasm in the wife, so that both husband and wife can achieve the most wonderful and harmonious sex life.
(7) Techniques to promote orgasm
Orgasm is the peak of sexual arousal for couples; it is the highest experience of sexual communication between them, a state of transcendence, hence both partners hope to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. How can one enjoy the bliss of orgasm? The methods are: ① Practice muscle training. This involves strengthening the contraction of the female pubococcygeus muscle. The method is to contract and then relax the vaginal and anal sphincter muscles, counting this as one repetition. Do this 60 times each morning and evening for a month, then apply this movement during sexual intercourse. This can strengthen the vagina's grip on the penis, enhancing pleasure. ② Change sexual positions appropriately. If a sexologist has identified a G-spot on the anterior vaginal wall, the woman-on-top position is recommended. This allows for more effective penile stimulation of the G-spot, promoting earlier female orgasm and coordinating sexual pleasure for both partners. ③ Learn to combine sexual fantasies with physical sexual stimulation. ④ Emphasize foreplay. ⑤ Strengthen sensual communication between partners. ⑥ Fully utilize erogenous zones and emphasize the active participation of both partners in sexual activity.
Ancient Chinese sexual techniques, particularly those related to the art of intercourse, provide a comprehensive overview of the art and methods of sexual intercourse. The content includes "Ten Movements," "Ten Sections," "Ten Cultivations," "Eight Movements," and "Ten Finishing Steps." The "Ten Movements" refer to the number of times the penis thrusts during intercourse, each movement having its own health benefits. The "Ten Sections" imitate the postures of ten animals during intercourse, representing the application of biomimicry in sexual life. The "Ten Cultivations" refer to the direction, speed, frequency, and depth of penile thrusting during intercourse. The "Eight Movements" refer to the changes in posture during intercourse and their psychological effects. The "Ten Finishing Steps" describe the characteristics of each round of intercourse, and also discuss female pleasure responses and the concept of male-female complementarity.
(8) During the resolution period, the husband should provide caresses and tenderness.
After both partners reach orgasm and achieve sexual satisfaction, they naturally enter the resolution phase. After a man reaches orgasm, his sexual arousal decreases rapidly, and his penis quickly softens. However, a woman's sexual desire subsides more slowly, and the congestion in her genitals gradually disappears. Many men are unaware of this physiological characteristic of women and consider everything settled and go to sleep immediately after ejaculation. This is incorrect and detrimental to a woman's sexual satisfaction, emotions, and psychological state, and over time, it can affect her sexual desire. Therefore, after ejaculation, the man should not immediately end sexual contact; he should not withdraw his penis immediately but pause for a moment to allow his wife's sexual needs to be met. Simultaneously engaging in conversation with his wife and providing caresses or kisses will bring her physical and emotional satisfaction and pleasure.