Causes and Coping Strategies of Sexual Repression
**Get a physical exam** Any disease that harms your health can cause your libido to become dormant.
"Sexual repression is one of the symptoms of clinical depression or low testosterone levels," Dr. Manley said.
Other factors that reduce libido include diabetes, hormonal imbalances, and excessive stress.
In addition, some medications used to treat high blood pressure or depression can also cause erectile dysfunction or decreased libido.
Therefore, please get a checkup and discuss the results with your doctor.
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> • Prevalence: 48% of American men experience some degree of sexual repression.
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Risk factors: Stress, anger, boredom, desire to perform, and other emotional problems are the most common causes.
Other physical factors include low testosterone levels, diabetes, sexual dysfunction, and even the use of prescription medications.
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> • Affected age group: Sexual repression is common among men over 40.
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Gender differences: Some therapists once believed that sexual repression was more common in women, but research results show that its incidence is the same in both sexes.
· Seek help from your family doctor first.
You might prefer to see an endocrinologist, psychologist, STD specialist, or urologist.
**Exercise** From a sexual perspective, going to the gym regularly is not useless.
A survey shows that men who exercise three or four times a week have more frequent (and higher-quality) sex lives than men who only exercise by walking.
Experts believe that vigorous physical exercise can increase testosterone levels and may promote blood flow to all parts of the body, including the reproductive organs.
Of course, physical exercise can also make you feel refreshed and happy; exercise itself is a powerful aphrodisiac.
**Work-life balance** If you work 6 days a week and 10 hours a day, you won't have much energy (or even time) to be intimate with your wife.
"Stress is probably the main problem," Dr. Wisch said.
Obviously, you can't stop working and spend all day on a shipwreck just to have a good sex life, although it is indeed an idea worth considering.
However, you can take a few minutes to relax every few hours of work, read the newspaper, listen to music, take a walk, or chat with friends.
Dr. Weish says that if you can regularly schedule 5 to 15 minutes of "entertainment" time for yourself, you will be surprised by the energy you store up, which can be very useful when you go to bed.
**Pay attention to your diet** If you eat a lot of high-calorie, low-nutrient foods every day, and you become like the foods you eat, what impact will that have on your sex life? A lot, says Wayne Merkel, MD, professor of pharmacy in the Department of Endocrinology and Metabolism at the University of Utah in Salt Lake City.
Eating greasy food for a long time can suppress the production of testosterone. Therefore, if you love steak and potatoes, eating less high-fat food can help you regain that wonderful feeling.
**Reclaiming Momentum** Just like in daily life, doing the same things day after day in your sex life can get boring. You understand what that means.
"As a couple, you must recognize the importance of adding freshness to your relationship," says Robert Birch, a psychologist, sex and marriage expert, and PhD, at a private clinic in Columbus, Ohio.
But this doesn't mean using marriage aids like pleasure pads. In fact, he advocates for "creative" methods of sex: bathing together or giving each other massages, trying new positions, or expressing inner fantasies.
**Get More Sunshine** Believe it or not, studies show that exposure to sunlight can induce sexual arousal, and those who frequently sunbathe have strong sexual urges.
In fact, it doesn't take much time to arouse your sexual desire.
Dr. Russell Reiter, professor of neuroendocrinology at the University of Texas Health Science Center in San Antonio, recommends getting at least 30 minutes of sunshine every day, especially during the winter months.
**Planning in advance** This may not sound very romantic, but in today's fast-paced 24-hour life, couples who crave the good times of sex often forget to do so.
"Most of the time, sex is just leftovers; even if you reheat it, it doesn't taste the same," Dr. Birch said.
He suggested that instead of waiting until the last minute, people should set up a "sex day" and mark it on their calendar like an important date.
"This way, you can enjoy sex when you're not particularly tired and are full of energy."
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Even if you have a strong sex drive, you may actually have sex very infrequently.
In a nationwide sex poll, only 8% of the 1,422 men surveyed had sex four or more times a week, with an average of seven times a month.
The most typical sexual intercourse lasts from 15 minutes to 1 hour.
**Please remember why you came together.** As our lives become increasingly busy-with children, careers, and all sorts of adult chores-it's easy to forget that the person we spend every day with is not just a friend or a helper, but also a lover, and one who would love to be seen as a lover.
"Tell her how sexy she is, or how wonderful her breasts are," Dr. Birch said.
"It doesn't necessarily have to end with sex; you just want to have a good time."
Insomnia
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Even the smartest people can't be sure how much sleep they should get each day.
Thomas Edison invented the light bulb after only 4 or 5 hours of sleep each night, while Albert Einstein slept at least 10 hours a day to create the theory of relativity.
So, if these two geniuses can't even agree on their sleeping times, what can we mere mortals do?
It's good if we adjust our sleep according to our own body's needs; you don't have to be smart enough to know that everyone needs a different amount of sleep to feel properly rested.
Most of us are somewhere between Edison and Einstein, at least when it comes to sleeping.
However, one-third of us-a total of 60 million Americans-frequently experience insomnia, meaning they have difficulty falling asleep or sleeping through the night.
One-third of them considered the problem to be very serious.
In most cases, the fact that you are closing your eyes less and less is a natural sign of aging.
Once you reach middle age, you no longer sleep as soundly as you used to.
You are waking up more and more often in the middle of the night, and you are staying awake for longer and longer periods of time.
"If you happen to become less active and gain weight, your chances of getting a good night's sleep are even lower," says James Pearl, PhD and author of Five Nights of Sweet Dreams.
Dozing off can lead to disaster.
The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration estimates that 600,000 car accidents each year are related to driver sleep deprivation, and 12,000 fatal accidents on highways each year are related to drivers sleeping while driving.
A survey shows that one in five drivers sleep while driving.